We have all heard of the 5 stages of grief and loss. Some of us may even be familiar with the stages set forth by the Kubler-Ross Model. What the model tells us is that there are 5 stages a person may go through when they have had a great loss. The loss could be of a loved one or even of the loss of a dream. These here United States of America were predicated on a dream. Since the formation of this great country, there have been several dreams and there is room for them all. This land is your land, this land is my land….
There may be need for a quick history lesson here…
This land was taken from the Natives, and because of that, everyone else was therefore, an immigrant.
That’s the end of the lesson which of course brings us to the first stage of grief or loss. It’s important to realize that not everyone will go through all the stages when experiencing a loss. For everyone it is a deeply personal journey. Stage one is denial and isolation.
- For 8 years, our country was being run by a man that was greatly opposed by most of this country’s political figures.
This time, could, for some be considered the first step in the process of grief. Regardless, he could make grand moves, even in the wake of all his opposition. This everyday man, did not buckle under the immense job with which he was tasked. That, in and of itself says a lot of his character. Obviously, this was not a time for mourning as much as jubilation.
- Then roughly, 2 years before the end of that man’s 2nd term, emerged an unlikely candidate (2 depending on whom the question is asked). To most it seemed a rouse that this billionaire businessman would become president. I mean he had the ideas of a person that had yet to join us in these days and times. His ideas were set in the 40’s, the 1740’s for goodness’ sake. Yet, he would emerge as the victor of this battle.
November 8th, 2016 will go down in history as the day that a collective, soul-wrenching, heartbreaking sob could be heard around the globe. The blogosphere went crazy with sincere notes of condolences for the greatest country in the world. For many a preliminary mourning would begin. January 20th, 2017, grief became the new anthem for our country. It showed in the dismal attendance for the inauguration to the many, many memes that would pop up on everyone’s timelines.
Within 48 hours, the new leader of the free world, would cement his place in history as the grim reaper for many of the ideas set forth by his predecessors. Enter the real beginning of the first stage of denial. Of course, there will never be 100% of the whole country that will agree or disagree but those on each side have drawn a clear line in the proverbial sand. An extremely large group of our country and in other countries, have clearly begun the dissent into grieving.
Several people have yet to and have vowed to never refer to the seated president as president. There is also a group that refer to his predecessor as their always president. This is clearly a country that is grieving for either the loss of the previous president or for the fact that the current president has taken away the security that was once taken for granted and considered a guarantee. I am not sure how long the stage of denial will continue for those going through the mourning. For some, this may be the longest stage as there are so many that have chosen to either act as if life hasn’t changed or for those that have chosen to ignore and live in an ignorant bliss. Where ever you may stand, the view is clear that what once was is slowly no longer and grief is new normal. A country in mourning….